The Power Of Minding Your Own Business


Nowadays, it’s easier to get the attention of celebrities, influencers, and public figures when they’ve done something wrong. Some say it’s call out culture, some call it hypersensitivity.

I personally think it’s progression. We, as a generation, are learning to speak out on issues that people used to tolerate and ignore. We try to be better in the sense that we want to be aware of what’s right and what’s wrong.

I’d like to think that it’s been effective to use social media as a platform to correct what needs to be corrected, but I also think that it has become a channel to unnecessarily hate and ‘cancel’ people.

While there’s nothing wrong with voicing out your opinion, where do we draw the line between your business and other people’s business?

First thing’s first: this has nothing to do with politics or social issues. Because that involves and affects everyone.

This is about how every day, we ‘drag’ people we barely know all because of a post that has absolutely nothing to do with us.

Interfering with other people’s business can be so second-nature to us that we don’t even realize that we’re doing it. It doesn’t necessarily have to be through actions, but with our words and thoughts too. Sometimes we can’t wait for someone to screw up so we can jump in with our opinion.

So why do we do it? I’m basing this off of a piece I recently read about The Art and Science of Minding Your Own Business by Manal Ghosain. So here’s my two cents:

We think we know better

When you’re aware of something, seeing things that we know better about makes us feel like we can convince people to change their opinion too. Nothing wrong with that right? But imagine randomly confronting some stranger on the Internet over your opinion on their life.

We feel the need to dictate how others think

We’re so caught up with our own idea of what’s acceptable that when other people have a different opinion, we feel the need to tell them what they should do instead.

We have a sense of amplified responsibility

We get it. This is the generation of  ‘wokeness.’ That’s why we take it upon ourselves to be responsible for educating people. As woke individuals, we feel guilty or indifferent if we ignore things that are unacceptable. Sometimes this becomes the drive for us to be social justice warriors.

But sometimes I think we get too blinded by our self-righteous ways that we fail to see that we’re stepping over the line. Who are we speaking to? Do we know the whole story? Are we involved in any way for us to have the right to comment?

The power of minding your own business lies in knowing when to get involved.

It lies in our intention. Why are we calling people out? Are we reaching too hard? Thinking too deep?

I’m personally all for voicing out my opinion. Heck, it’s what I’m doing now!

But shouldn’t we have the sense to choose our battles? Are we really going to jump into every argument? For what – for the sake of retweets?

Why should we waste our time of the day correcting someone who doesn’t want to be corrected? Or call out people we barely know?

Some people use social media as an escape from reality. If we police everything that people say on the Internet, how are we better than the people they want to escape from?

Focus on your own life

Here’s how we can use the power of minding our own business for a better mental health. (You’d be surprised how great you’ll feel when you learn to do this instead)

  1. Dealing with your own problems instead of others gives you more time to solve your own issues. When you let others be, you’ll feel less responsible for others’ actions.
  2. Remove yourself from situations that do not affect you.
  3. Trust that people are old enough to face their own consequences.
  4. Don’t offer advice unless they ask for it
  5. When you want to call someone out for a problematic statement, remind yourself of your intention: educate or hate?

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As you practice all of these and focus on making yourself better, things will fall into place for you eventually. There’s already enough hatred and injustice in the world to stress over a post done in the heat of the moment.

*disclaimer: this article does not represent the views and opinions of the whole MEG brand.