Calling Out An Abuser Publicly Is Not For Clout



News has spread all over social media as discourse starts spurring. What ignited this heat on the internet are the confessions of Kyle Viray’s victims of physical and emotional abuse.

The motivation behind one of the posts is the other’s confession of a similar experience.

The two women have experienced similar physical abuse from the same person, Kyle Viray. Outrage spurred upon knowing that he has not paid for his actions. The University of Santo Tomas, the university he is attending, has given him a mere community service as punishment for these allegations.

Not only does this perpetuate crimes like this with such menial punishment, it also propagates victim blaming. Through this, crimes such as physical abuse are perceived as something smaller than what they should be. Thus, its victims have deemed attention seekers.

One Twitter user said, “What good does clamoring for drama and dragging people down do? Maybe we ought to learn how to settle and/or comment on things in the most humane and compassionate way possible.”

However, this is the exact reason why posting online is not for clout.

It’s the only way to spread awareness in this culture of victim blaming prevalent in the Philippines. Majority of the time, perpetrators of these crimes get away with little to no punishment. Systems of institutions clearly favor that of the abusers. Moreover, society then continues to put the blame on the victim and rationalizing the actions of the abusers. Voices are left unheard, and hands uncuffed. Injustice continues to reign under these institutions.

Thus, it’s only through publicizing these experiences that these women get to share their story.

Why should we concern ourselves with the reputation of an abuser?

Why is the responsibility of being compassionate and silent handed down to the victims themselves? This cry for justice is not for the well-being of the abuser, but for his victims. Maybe we should think that if Kyle Viray had been compassionate himself, he wouldn’t be worrying about his reputation and a college degree. Maybe, this time, we should consider the position of the abused and oppressed.