In a country where thin is perceived as sexy, it’s no wonder being in the public eye is a toxic place to be. Loving your body is hard especially when you don’t reach society’s unrealistic body standards.
In an Instagram post last Monday, Jessy Mendiola compares two pictures of herself. The picture on the left taken on 2016, and a recent picture of herself.
Seeing the pictures side to side, you’ll be able to tell the difference in Jessy’s weight. In her post, she says that she always thought of herself as ‘really strong and fit’ – even during the picture on the left. But after being dubbed as FHM’s Sexiest Woman in 2016, all eyes were on her.
How It Took A Toll On Jessy’s Mental Health
You would think that having the ‘Sexiest Woman’ title makes her immune from hate, but it doesn’t.
Jessy shares that she regularly worked out and ate healthily. It made her feel good about herself and she felt as if her hard work paid off when she earned the ‘Sexiest Woman’ title.
“But I was wrong. I was bullied, body shamed with bashers calling me names like ‘pata, baboy, taba, etc.’ while others said I didn’t deserve to win the title cause I’m waaaaaay bigger than the other girls who they thought should’ve won,” she writes.
She also shares that because of what those people said, she started hating herself.
“At times even thinking I was a bad person for having “thunder thighs”. I stopped working out, I got depressed, binge ate my feelings off and started gaining more weight than I should. I didn’t even want to be seen on TV anymore, I started turning down roles and it affected my work.”
How Jessy Got Her Confidence Back
The thing is, not everyone can achieve that supermodel body. No matter how hard you work out, not everyone can have a thigh gap. Not everyone is anatomically built to have a flat stomach.
And like any confident person, Jessy stopped worrying about what people think of her.
Feeling good about yourself shouldn’t be dependent on how other people see you.
That’s exactly what Jessy Mendiola reminded herself as she focused to turn her life around.
“I realized: why should I feel so bad about myself when I loved myself even before I was called ‘sexiest’?”
Up to this day, people still call Jessy names, but she decided to build herself up again and become healthy despite of it. She lost 15lbs since then and said that she ate moderately to maintain her body.
Most importantly, she accepted her body build and worked out according to her body type.
Jessy Mendiola ended her post with an important message, especially for those who are also struggling with their weight:
“I still see myself as the ‘pata girl’ and it’s okay, it is just a matter of perspective. When I decided to shift perspective, everything started falling into place. I may not be the sexiest for others, but I am sexy and beautiful for myself, that alone is enough.”
So… I’m gonna post about this because a lot of people asked me to. Not to show off or anything, but rather to inspire. I’ve always thought of myself as really strong and fit, yes, even on the picture on the left. I worked out regularly (weights and all), ate what I felt was good for me and you know what? It felt good, I was happy. When I won FHM’s sexiest woman in 2016, I thought… finally, people appreciate my efforts and my body. But I was wrong. I was bullied, body shamed with bashers calling me names like “pata, baboy, taba, etc.” while others said I didn’t deserve to win the title cos I’m waaaaaay bigger than the other girls who they thought should’ve won. I felt really down and started losing my confidence. I loved myself then (big thighs, belly rolls and round face) but when people started pointing out my flaws, I started hating myself, at times even thinking I was a bad person for having “thunder thighs”. I stopped working out, I got depressed, binge ate my feelings off and started gaining more weight than I should. I didn’t even want to be seen on TV anymore, I started turning down roles and it affected my work. Then I realized, why should I feel so bad about myself when I loved myself even before i was called “sexiest”. I thought of myself as sexy, strong ang beautiful in my own way. I started building myself up again despite what other people say (until now they call me names) and have lost 15 lbs since. I learned to eat moderately and exercise to feel good, to be energized rather than by punishing myself for eating chocolates or that blueberry muffin. I started accepting my built and switched my work out according to my body type (Hi @bodybymamakat and mama @nadinetengco love you both 🤗😘). I still see myself as the “pata girl” and it’s okay, it is just a matter of perspective. When I decided to shift perspective, everything started falling into place. I may not be the sexiest for others, but I am sexy and beautiful for myself, that alone is enough. Shout out to every “pata girl” out there, just keep going. Love yourself, love your body and it will love you back. TRUST ME. ❤️ #thunderthighs #patagirl #pataislife #pataforevs
Preach, Jessy! Share this post if you’re a proud “pata girl” too!